And it was our Paper Anniversary

Feb 21, 2010 marked our first year of marriage as well as 1yr of being officially Mrs downtheaisle.
Truly no two husbands are alike, likewise no two wives are the same...are you surprised?

Everyone is an individual, and that makes every marriage different.

Its not everytime I want to go to bed in some sexy lingerie, there are times I want to sleep in that boubou... and just look ugly.
Its not everytime I have something to say and pay compliments..there are days I am in the 'shut-up' mode.
Its not everytime I want one in-law or family friend around, there are weekends when I wantto spend it alone with my soul-mate.
How about the times I want to stay in bed and curl up to read some good book and making lunch or dinneris the hardest since hard?
And the times I want to speak up and shout back at my soul-mate because I disagree, but somehow Ifind myself letting the event pass.
I forget the times when I am forced to sit through a sport rendevous or some boring program showing on TV and pretend I enjoy every part of it.

In all this,

I have learnt to go on my knees for things I couldn't change on my own,
I have learnt to deal wisely...wisdom is principal in marriage.
I have learnt how to respect inorder to earn the respect I desire to get from my spouse.
I have learnt to balance my 'off' and 'on' modes.
I have learnt that submission is mutual,I can submit easily when my husband recognizes that my submission is not because I am weak but because it is necesary for the strength of our marriage.
I have learnt that I cannot always be right,and Its not compulsory that I have my own way all the time.
I have learnt that when a man loves you, his criticisms are not to tear you down but to build you up.
I have learnt its Ok to be angry, but also be able to justify the reason for my anger.
I have learnt that the success of our marriage is dependent on two of us, not just the woman as we are used to hearing, its a convenant between two people.
I have learnt our vows are very important, it was taken before God and we cannot make a mockery of it.


My first year of marriage was full of lessons, I can bet as the years roll by, the list of lessons will increase. I would say...the beauty of marriage, is seeing that after 50yrs..60yrs..70yrs,we are still together, loving,learning and still having the spark that drew us to each other the very first time.Truly, marriage becomes all that you want, when its with the right person!

Here's to wishing anyone willing to take the testimonial walk down the aisle, all the wisdom you need with the joy and hapiness that comes with building a happy home!

I pay very little regard...to what any young person says
on the subject of marriage.
If they profess a disinclination for it,
I only set it down that they have not yet seen the right person.
Jane Austen (1775 - 1817),